um…睇完工作，當然要睇埋愛情啦，我係F 人呀嘛，點都要講下 d 講 feel 既野!
(都係 from http://www.geocities.com/lifexplore/esfj.htm)
愛情方面 – what love means for ESFJs
- love means warmth and commitment
- when ESFJs first fall in love, they show this warmth and concern for their partner in many tangible ways: they will send cards, notes, flowers, special gifts, and other mementos of their affection. If the partner casually mentions a desire for a specific thing, they will try to find just that thing (真係?? )
- once committed in a relationship, ESFJs tend to stay with it even when there is inconvenience to them and perhaps longer than may be healthy
- they are able to bring out the best in their partners, even though it may mean putting their own needs second (well… this need to be confirmed by a 2nd opinion)
- because ESFJs are caring individuals, they expect to give and receive in their relationships. Because others may not be as thoughtful as the ESFJ, it is a possible source of disappointment to them if they expect the same awareness and caring on the part of the partner. Being practical and realistic, they may not always like effusive shows of affection and prefer moderation instead (好似好矛盾咁………)
- ESFJs wear their hearts on their sleeves (this is no good… according to my family) and are outgoing in their emotional reactions. They need to be needed, loved, and appreciated (***** BIG BIG hint to Rwell… this is super true and important) and may spend much energy reassuring themselves that this is the case
- ESFJs may take the end of the relationship as a personal failure. ESFJs, when scorned, hurt all over and may need to take time to get over the relationship before pursuing a new one. They may too easily and incorrectly blame themselves for the unfavorable outcome and recall instances when perhaps they were not as giving as they might have been. However, ESFJs’ standards for giving in a relationship are likely to be above those of some other types. At their worst when scorned, ESFJs can become spiteful and critical of the partner. Because ESFJs are keenly sensitive to others and are tuned in to emotional needs, they really know how to hurt a person in the rare instances when they choose to do so (好似好恐怖咁喎………..)
ESFJ 的生活 -
- ESFJs have a set of values which contain clear should and should-nots, and they expect their family to abide by these (yet when they do not, it’s a huge problem because ESFJs do not take conflict well…….. and they blame themselves for it; aka explain some growing-up dilemmas)
- they are conscientious about home responsibilities, are orderly about the home and prefer that other occupants be the same (BIG BIG Hint to future Rwell; though my parents would not agree!)
- ESFJs want family decisions settled efficiently and quickly and family living routinized, schedule and correctly executed (home-living nazi???). They do not rebel against routine operations , are devoted to the traditional values of home and health, respect their marriage vows and are the most sympathetic of all types…. ((死板仔?? hahahha, example 1: if people see me rushing home on Sunday after Church, that’s because my family go to Park’N Shop on Sunday…. it’s nothing special, but it’s the ONLY tradition in my family and I DO observed this traditional strictly)
- ESFJs usually respect and revere their parents ( i.e. the inability to reject their opinions…..)
- they tend to be dependent on their mates and may marry to insure they have a proper place in the social strata (????? really??).
- they enjoy socializing and entertaining; they are soft-hearted and usually observe with gusto birthdays, anniversaries and the like, making the event a delightful, important occasion.They enjoy the rituals connected with serving of good food and beverages, thrive on festive occasions, respect and accumulate a goodly store of material possessions (remember previous posts about me & celebrations as well as party props???????!!! gosh… )
- yet, they may cause others undue tension by expressing anticipations of gloom and doom, exhibiting a bent toward the pessimistic that can be contagious. they need to control their fears that the worst is sure to happen and suppress their tendency toward crepe-hanging and anticipating disasters
- the children of ESFJ (***** IMPORTANT NOTE TO SELF) are seen as an extension of the family and all they do reflects on the ESFJ. If things do no go well, the ESFJ may be critical, even carping toward his or her mate and children (…. on no….)
- ESFJs live in terms of people and things rather than in terms of ideas and principles. they enjoy the process of decision-making, particularly when focus is on the usefulness of things and people (?????)
I guess this is the end of the ESFJ series……….. 
